P: Dear friends, we have come
together to witness the marriage of
Michelle and Michael and to rejoice
The union of man and woman in
heart, body and mind is intended for
their mutual comfort and help, that
they may now each other with love,
respect and tenderness.
In marriage, husband and wife give
themselves to each other, to care for
each other in good times and in bad.
They are linked to each other’s families
and friends and they begin a special life
together in the community. It is a way
of life that all should reverence and
none should take lightly.
MICHAEL and MICHELLE, if
either of you know a reason why you
may not lawfully marry, you must
declare that now.
Mena: Touched by an Angel
We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.
We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love’s light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love which sets us free.
Alex: Extract from
‘De Imitatio Christi’
Love often knows no limits but
overflows all bounds. Love feels no
burden, thinks nothing of troubles,
attempts more than it is able, and does
not plead impossibility, because it
believes that it may and can do all
things. For this reason, it is able to do
all, performing and effecting much
where he who does not love fails and
falls. Love is watchful. Sleeping, it does
not slumber. Wearied, it is not tired.
Pressed, it is not straitened. Alarmed, it
is not confused, but like a living flame,
a burning torch, it forces its way
upward and passes unharmed through
P: MICHAEL , will you give yourself
to MICHELLE , to be her husband, to
love her, comfort her, honour and
protect her, and forsaking all others to
be faithful to her for as long as you
both shall live?
G: I will.
P: MICHELLE , will you give yourself
to MICHAEL , to be his wife, to love
him, comfort him, honour and protect
him, and forsaking all others to be
faithful to him for as long as you both
G: I will.
P: Repeat after me:
G: I, MICHAEL , take you,
MICHELLE , to be my wife, to have
and to hold from this day forward, for
better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health, to love and to
cherish for the rest of our lives. This
is my solemn vow.
P: Repeat after me:
W: I, MICHELLE , take you,
MICHAEL , to be my husband, to
have and to hold from this day
forward, for better, for worse, for
richer, for poorer, in sickness and in
health, to love and to cherish for the
rest of our lives. This is my solemn
EXCHANGE OF RINGS
P: We now ask MICHELLE and
MICHAEL to exchange rings. Let
these rings be symbols of the vow and
covenant that they have made here this
day. From the elements of the earth,
through work and faith were taken the
material for these rings, just as from the
elements of life and emotion came your
desire for this marriage. As the perfect
circle of a ring symbolizes eternity, in
the years to come may these rings
remind you of this special occasion
when you were united in marriage and
the love you mutually pledge to one
P: Repeat after me.
G: (placing the ring on the fourth
finger of the bride’s left hand)
MICHELLE , with all my love I give
you this ring, an everlasting
symbol of the vows we have made each
other and as a token of my love.
W: MICHAEL , with all my love I give
you this ring, an everlasting symbol of
the vows we have made each other and
as a token of my love.
PRONOUNCEMENT OF THE MARRIAGE
P: (bride and groom hold hands and
face the officiant)
MICHELLE and MICHAEL have
joined themselves to each other by
solemn vows, the joining of hands and
the giving and receiving of rings. By
authority given to me by the Province
of Ontario and the Marriage Act, I now
declare that they are forever husband
and wife. You may now kiss the bride.
The spousal greeting/kiss
The elements will be shared with those
present who wish to receive.
SIGNING OF THE LICENSE AND
BLESSINGS AND DISMISSAL
P: Blessing of the Apache:
Now you will feel no rain,
for each of you will be shelter
for the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
for each of you will be warmth
to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness,
for each of you will be companion
to the other.
Now you are two persons,
but there is only one life before you.
May beauty surround you
both in the journey ahead
and through all the years,
May happiness be your companion
and your days together be good
and long upon the earth.
Treat yourselves and each other
with respect, and
remind yourselves often of what
brought you together.
Give the highest priority
to the tenderness,
gentleness and kindness that your
When frustration, difficulties and
fear assail your relationship,
as they threaten all relationships at
one time or another,
remember to focus
on what is right between you,
not only the part
which seems wrong.
In this way,
you can ride out the storms
when clouds hide the face
of the sun in your lives –
even if you lose sight of it for a
moment, the sun is still there.
And if each of you takes
responsibility for the quality of your
life together, it will be marked by
abundance and delight.
P: Light is the essence of our
existence. Each one of us possesses
an inner glow that represents our
hopes, our dreams and aspirations
MICHELLE and MICHAEL, the
two distinct candle flames represent
your lives before this day,
individual, unique and special.
Please take the candle symbolizing
your life before today, and together
light the center candle to symbolize
the union of your individual lives.
As this new flame burns undivided,
so shall your lives now be one.
From now on your thoughts will
always be for each other rather than
your individual selves. Your plans
will be mutual, your joys and
sorrows both will be shared alike.
Extinguish the two flames
symbolizing your previous lives and
you are forever united together in
P: It is my pleasure to introduce to
you, MICHELLE and MICHAEL as husband and
wife! Now go in peace and forever
celebrate your love and life together!